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Stop Pushing That
Button
Very few
relationships exist without any frustration or angry words. Many of us
find that our partners are able to press our buttons more than anyone
or anything else can.
Our ìbuttonsî are hurts that we carry with us. When we sense a
hurt is being attacked we get angry. This temporarily stops us from
feeling pain, but it is only temporary.
If the anger becomes intense then the accompanying rush of adrenalin
we experience is much like alcohol, in that it can make us feel
powerful and pain-free in the short term but then leaves us both
physiologically and emotional drained and depressed. If, in this state
of anger, we have also abused someone in any way or behaved in a
manner that we are later embarrassed by, then that will compound our
ongoing state of distress and depression.
When children witness destructive behaviour with anger, it will almost
always have a very negative impact on their view of intimate
relationships. This negative impact on the children will be still more
profound if they then see that their parents have not really
understood, taken responsibility or been able to explain their own
behaviour after such an event. If childrenís experience is that
anger behaviour cannot be explained, they are much more likely to feel
powerless when dealing with it themselves throughout their lives.
Understanding, taking responsibility and ultimately gaining power over
our own ìbuttonsî is fundamental to building strong and intimate
relationships. Being armed with this personal knowledge and power is
likely to strengthen our ability to assist children through their own
journey of emotional regulation.
Starting
Out Early with Computers
By Jeff Loo
Ever
thought of starting your child early on the computer or the Internet?
Contrary to some belief, the computer is an excellent tool for both
educating children and having some great fun with them. There are,
however, a few safety tips every parent should know about before
guiding children into this exciting electronic world.
As
a guide, children up to the age of eight or nine should always be
accompanied when using the Internet, while content for older children
should be strictly scrutinised. Unsuitable content can pop up on the
computer if it is not protected for viruses and more recently, spyware.
Spyware is malicious advertising software that is downloaded and
causes unwanted pop-ups of information when you surf the Internet.
The
choice of computer display panel is also important. Old and bulky CRT
monitors are today considered less desirable for children because they
emit glare and static to the eyes, quickly causing eyestrain and
possible eyesight deterioration. LCD flat panel monitors, on the other
hand, uses ìcoolî technology, which is much better.
Todayís
high speed computers and broadband Internet have so much to offer to
children of all ages. Some great websites for the very young include www.thewiggles.com.au,
www.disney.com.au and www.sesameworkshop.com,
while popular children CDs include the Jumpstart Series and many more.
Searching for websites for children is easy using the Google search
engine.
For
any general computing and Internet queries in Perth, Netway Computers
has stores located from the north all the way down to Rockingham.
Store locations can be obtained at www.netwaycomputers.com.
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